10 THINGS A WIFE OR WIFE-TO-BE SHOULD KNOW
One of the surprises for my niece’s bridal shower included a Bridal Book (like a scrapbook). We (the aunts, grandmothers, friends, etc.) were asked to write our thoughts or "words of wisdom" for the soon-to-be bride. Although I won't disclose everything in my letter… I would love to share a short version of what I wrote.
10 THINGS A WIFE OR WIFE-TO-BE SHOULD KNOW
1. Be a queen. Learn to rule in God’s Kingdom but also to be the queen of yours. Steer your “kingdom” (home) into greatness. You have an incredible role—carry on! Be fun, loving, creative, and trustworthy. Stay cool, calm, and collected. Embrace everyday duties and new commitments with power and grace. Do the best you can with what you have (Proverbs 31).
“If you want favor with both God and man, and a reputation for good judgment and common sense, then trust the Lord completely; don’t ever trust yourself. In everything you do, put God first, and he will direct you and crown your efforts with success.”
2. Your attitude and words have power, Proverbs 18:21. Don’t let your way of thinking or emotions interfere with your marriage or your future. Don’t lean on your own understanding. Think how God thinks! Guard what you say. What you say has power to affect everything. Think things through; don’t automatically react!
3. Take care of yourself… start from the inside out. That means staying intimately connected with your Father in the Secret Place. Stay healthy and strong. Please don’t wait until it’s too late! Get in shape, eat smart, look good, smell amazing, and take the time to rest. Yes, get your beauty sleep.
4. The order or line of command goes like this: God first, then the husband, then you, kids next, and everything else after. It’s a setup for love, blessings, and prosperity to flow. Don’t get so familiar that you cannot respect the anointing.
5. Stay humble. It works every time.
6. Sometimes we need to be our husband's girlfriend, other times his best friend, most times his lover, and always his wife.
7. Always think the best of him (your husband, that is!). Nobody is perfect. We all have faults… Focus on the things that are lovely, pure, joyful and adventurous… Need an attitude adjustment? You can start by having conversations with God from 1 Corinthians 13. Watch what happens!
8. We don’t need to respond (give our opinion, solution, or suggestion) every time! Think of staying quiet much more than you might think.
9. Whatever you allow him (your hubby!) at the beginning of the relationship will be expected throughout the years to come.
e.g., If you don’t want him to leave his pants on the floor, now is the time to tell him.
Oh! If you have been married for a while now... well! Get lovingly creative about it and tell him.
10. Marriage, as you might have heard, is hard work. It's true! So, keep up the good work. It looks just like hard work!
I think weddings and marriage are some of God’s favorite things! After all, He does call Himself The Groom and calls us His Bride. God’s love is so beautiful. Through His love, we can love others and also love ourselves—who we are becoming.
It’s a great day!
Christina
Repost from October 30, 2016